Divorce chat from Gezinnig
Fill in a page together: on a fixed day of the week, at a change moment or just when there is a need. On each left page your child can tell how he or she is doing by means of various questions. On each right page there are alternating assignments, both emotional and practical matters are discussed. A few examples:
- Choose a question. Have you ever had a really nice talk with someone about the divorce? Are you ever jealous when you are with someone whose parents are together? Would you like to ask mom or dad again: Why did you get divorced?
- Let’s get started. What do you want to do? Plan a holiday or overcome a tantrum. Express my worries or send yourself a card.
- Agree or disagree. I find it annoying to tell what I ate at the other parent's house. Sometimes I cry when I'm in bed. I've become wiser from the divorce.
- Make a list. With things you don't want to drag back and forth anymore. With things that can comfort you when you're sad. With things you want to help decide.
- Fuck the divorce. No divorce for a while, but a dress-up party, making a song list or a yoga exercise.
Scheidingklets offers tools to start a conversation together. To ask or tell what might be difficult or painful. But also to share what is already going well, and to look together at how you can make things better. Throughout the book are 'tips for parents' to help parents deal with difficult or sensitive reactions from their child. Of course you can't solve everything (immediately), know that a listening ear can also be very helpful.
